Slow Dance by Rainbow Rowell: Characters Explained

Character guide for Slow Dance by Rainbow Rowell

Rainbow Rowell’s Slow Dance (2024) is the August pick for Reese Witherspoon’s Book Club, and it’s a must-read for anyone who loves a good second-chance romance. The story follows Shiloh and Cary, two best friends from their teens who reconnect after 14 years at a wedding. Now in their 30s, they reflect on their past and start to explore the love they never quite figured out.

If you’ve been reading Slow Dance (or are just about to), you’ll know that the heart of this novel isn’t just its plot—it’s the characters who feel so real, you almost expect to run into them at the grocery store. From Shiloh’s complex emotional journey to Cary’s quiet devotion, the characters in this story truly make it unforgettable.

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Everything you need for a successful book club meeting for Slow Dance is included below. You’ll find discussion questions, food and drink ideas, and more!

We also have an optional printable Slow Dance book club kit to take your meeting to the next level. This blog post is customized to Familiaris and includes the following pages:

Character List
Discussion Questions
Quotes from the Book
Themed Slow Dance Ideas
Printable Bookmarks
Extra Info: Author facts
Themed Food & Drink Ideas
Book Covers from Around the World
Custom Journal Page for Meeting Details
Themed Notes Page
List of Additional Book Club Resources

About the Author | Q&A with Rainbow Rowell

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Slow Dance

Slow Dance is all about first loves, missed chances, and how complicated adult relationships can get. It’s nostalgic, heartfelt, and perfect for anyone who believes in new beginnings.

Rowell is known for her earlier hits like Eleanor & Park (2013), which put her on the map with its sweet take on first love, and Fangirl, a fan-favorite about finding your voice. If you love those, you’ll definitely want to check out Slow Dance.

Slow Dance by Rainbow Rowell

Release date: July 30, 2024
Genre: Coming of Age Fiction
Hardcover: 992 pages
Publisher: William Morrow

Slow Dance Characters

Shiloh

Shiloh is a character who embodies the messiness of life. At the heart of Slow Dance, she’s a single mom navigating the complexities of raising two kids, surviving a divorce, and rediscovering herself in her 30s. What’s so interesting about Shiloh is the way Rainbow Rowell pulls us back to her high school self. We meet Shiloh first as a rebellious teenager, a misfit who’s not afraid to challenge the system, from politics to prom. She’s an anti-establishment soul who’d rather hang out with her best friends, Mikey and Cary, than get caught up in the typical high school drama.

Shiloh’s relationship with Cary is crucial in shaping her. In high school, she’s deeply in love with him but lacks the confidence to express it. Their bond is one of those slow-burn connections that neither of them fully recognizes until much later in life. She’s always touching him, always close, but never admitting what’s going on beneath the surface. It’s only after a painful, emotional split that Shiloh finally realizes how important Cary is to her, even as she struggles with the baggage of past mistakes.

Shiloh’s journey is one of self-acceptance. The title of the book Slow Dance is fitting for her—this is a woman who takes her time, making peace with her past and her fears before she can step forward into love and trust again. Her relationship with Cary, which starts off as tentative and complicated, grows into a raw and honest partnership built on vulnerability. Through her arc, Rowell paints a portrait of a woman who learns that it’s never too late to rewrite your story, especially when you’re brave enough to let love in.

Cary

If Shiloh is the heart of the story, Cary is the steady, reliable rhythm that keeps things grounded. Cary’s journey is both a testament to the complexities of love and the sacrifices we make for duty. As a teenager, he’s defined by his sense of responsibility—towards his country, his family, and especially his friendships. Though Shiloh and Cary grow up in the same tough neighborhood in Omaha, it’s clear that Cary’s sense of duty (particularly his commitment to the military) sets him apart from Shiloh’s anti-establishment tendencies.

Cary’s internal battle is one of unrequited love and emotional restraint. He’s quietly in love with Shiloh, but he holds back, believing he’s not the right guy for her, especially as she deals with her own set of issues. Cary’s own baggage—growing up without a father and watching his mother make destructive choices in her relationships—creates a sense of emotional fragility that he tries to mask with stoicism. His connection with Shiloh remains elusive for years, leaving him frustrated but also deeply protective of her.

As an adult, Cary is the person Shiloh can lean on, the one who makes her feel safe enough to be herself. He’s dependable, but he also struggles with the idea of being enough for her. His role as a caretaker, first to his sisters and then to Shiloh, reveals the deep well of love he has to offer, but it’s not without its struggles. Cary shows us the quiet strength of someone who is ready to love, but who also has to face the scars from his past in order to embrace a future with Shiloh.

Mikey

Mikey is the glue that holds Shiloh and Cary together throughout the years. He’s the friend who’s always there, even when life pulls everyone in different directions. Mikey’s wedding is the catalyst for Shiloh and Cary’s reunion, and it marks a shift in their lives as they start to grapple with what they really want from each other. Mikey is the friend who knows their history—he’s the one who sees the sparks between Shiloh and Cary long before they do.

Mikey’s own life is also shifting as he gets married and becomes a father. But even as he steps into this new phase of life, his role as the connector between Shiloh and Cary remains unchanged. It’s Mikey who encourages Shiloh to pursue a relationship with Cary, and he later helps Cary pick out the engagement ring, cementing his place as the emotional support and cheerleader for their romance. Mikey represents the beauty of long-lasting friendships and the importance of shared history. He’s the one person who never doubted that Shiloh and Cary would end up together.

Ryan

Ryan is Shiloh’s ex-husband, and he serves as a stark contrast to Cary throughout the novel. He’s charismatic and charming—exactly the kind of guy Shiloh was drawn to in her youth. But beneath the surface, Ryan is a cheater and a betrayer. Their marriage crumbles under the weight of his infidelities, and Shiloh is left to rebuild her life, emotionally and financially, with two young children and a complicated custody arrangement.

Ryan is important in the story because he represents the life Shiloh thought she wanted but ultimately outgrew. While Cary embodies the ideal partner—someone who is steady, supportive, and emotionally available—Ryan is a reminder of Shiloh’s past mistakes. Their co-parenting relationship is a constant tension in Shiloh’s life, reminding her of her failed marriage and her fears about never finding love again. In the end, Ryan acts as the foil to Cary—someone who once promised love but never really showed up for her in the way she needed.

Juniper (Junie)

Junie is Shiloh’s daughter, and at just six years old, she’s already showing signs of the strong will and dramatic flair she inherited from both of her parents. Junie is fiercely independent but still craves her mother’s attention, and her presence adds another layer of complexity to Shiloh’s relationship with Cary. The more Shiloh and Cary begin to reconnect, the more Junie notices and reacts, which creates some conflict. Junie’s relationship with Cary is a slow-building trust, as both she and Cary learn how to navigate the delicate balance of blending families.

Junie is a reminder that love doesn’t just involve two people—it’s also about the lives and relationships that come with them. For Cary, the idea of becoming a stepfather is a daunting one, especially after witnessing his own mother’s struggles. But over time, Cary’s connection with Junie grows, and he embraces the role of a loving father figure. Junie, in turn, becomes an important part of Cary’s journey toward building a family with Shiloh.

Slow Dance Character Table

Character	Role	Traits/Key Characteristics	Arc/Development
Shiloh	Dual protagonist	Misanthropic, politically far-left, rebellious teen, self-critical, emotionally distant, single parent, a manager at a children’s community theater. Independent and headstrong.	Grows emotionally, learning to embrace love and vulnerability. Learns to be honest with herself and others about her needs. Navigates past trauma from her marriage and divorce, builds a new, healthier relationship with Cary. The novel centers on her rediscovery of love and self-acceptance.
Cary	Dual protagonist	Disciplined, deeply loyal, military-oriented, emotionally reserved, struggles with self-doubt and inadequacy. A person of duty, both to his country and loved ones.	Experiences a slow-burning romance with Shiloh. Develops into a dependable, emotionally present man, overcoming his military-related emotional baggage. Learns to balance devotion to his vocation with his personal life, particularly as he builds a relationship with Shiloh and her children.
Mikey	Best friend to Shiloh and Cary	Loyal, socially well-adjusted, and supportive. Mikey bridges Shiloh and Cary’s lives after their separation.	Plays a catalyst role in reuniting Shiloh and Cary. Encourages Shiloh to pursue love with Cary. Embarks on a new chapter in life with his own marriage and family. Represents the value of enduring friendships and shared history.
Ryan	Shiloh’s ex-husband	Charismatic, emotionally complex, and self-absorbed. Loving father but unfaithful. Often seen as a foil to Cary, represents Shiloh’s emotional and physical burdens.	Represents Shiloh’s emotional growth as she learns to release the past. His betrayal forces Shiloh to reassess her life and sexuality. Continues to co-parent with Shiloh despite their divorce, complicating her life. Ultimately, he contrasts Cary’s qualities, showing Shiloh the difference between a partnership that stifles and one that liberates.
Juniper (Junie)	Shiloh’s daughter	Outspoken, headstrong, and dramatic, inherited her parents’ flair for the dramatic. Emotionally independent but still in need of her mother’s support.	Develops a complex relationship with Cary as he integrates into Shiloh’s life. Learns to trust Cary gradually. Represents the complications and dynamics of step-parenting and how children perceive adult relationships.
Gus	Shiloh’s son	Young child, not as developed or emotionally complex as Junie, but an important part of Shiloh’s life and the family dynamic.	While not as central to the narrative as Junie, Gus is part of Shiloh’s new reality, highlighting her role as a mother and the challenges of balancing love and family.

Slow Dance Character List

Shiloh

The central protagonist of the novel. A former rebellious teen, she is now a single mother navigating the complexities of adulthood, love, and self-acceptance.

Cary

Shiloh’s high school best friend and second protagonist. He has deep feelings for Shiloh and struggles with expressing them, balancing his military career with his personal life and his connection to Shiloh.

Mikey

Shiloh and Cary’s close friend from high school. He is the person who reunites them after 14 years, serving as the catalyst for their rekindled romance. Mikey represents enduring friendships and shared history.

Ryan

Shiloh’s ex-husband and the father of her two children, Gus and Juniper. A charismatic man who was unfaithful, Ryan serves as a foil to Cary and represents Shiloh’s emotional and relational burdens.

Juniper (Junie)

Shiloh’s six-year-old daughter, who is outspoken, independent, and emotionally complex. She struggles with the changing dynamics of her family as Shiloh and Cary begin spending more time together.

Gus

Shiloh’s younger son. While not a major character in the narrative, Gus adds to the portrayal of Shiloh’s motherhood and the challenges of balancing family responsibilities with personal growth.

Janine

Mikey’s wife, who plays a supporting role in Mikey’s life as he embarks on his own journey of starting a family.

Lois

Cary’s mother, who becomes ill, leading to Shiloh stepping in to help him. Lois’s illness helps deepen the connection between Shiloh and Cary as they navigate caregiving together.

Shiloh’s Mother

A secondary character who plays a key role in Shiloh’s life, especially when Shiloh moves back home after her divorce. She represents a more traditional, stable presence in Shiloh’s life.

Cary’s Sisters

Cary’s sisters, who, while not major characters, are mentioned as part of his family life and his responsibilities as a son and sibling. They also contribute to the theme of family support.

Books Like Slow Dance

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Ellery Wainwright is alone at the edge of the world.

She and her husband, Luke, were supposed to spend their twentieth wedding anniversary together at the luxurious Resort at Broken Point in Big Sur, California. Where better to celebrate a marriage, a family, and a life together than at one of the most stunning places on earth?

But now she’s traveling solo.

To add insult to injury, there’s a wedding at Broken Point scheduled during her stay. Ellery remembers how it felt to be on the cusp of everything new and wonderful, with a loved and certain future glimmering just ahead. Now, she isn’t certain of anything except for her love for her kids and her growing realization that this place, though beautiful, is unsettling.

When Ellery discovers the body of the groom floating in the pool in the rain, she realizes that she is not the only one whose future is no longer guaranteed. Before the police can reach Broken Point, a mudslide takes out the road to the resort, leaving the guests trapped. When another guest dies, it’s clear something horrible is brewing.

Everyone at Broken Point has a secret. And everyone has a shadow. Including Ellery.

Attachments by Rainbow Rowell

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Beth Fremont and Jennifer Scribner-Snyder know that somebody is monitoring their work e-mail. (Everybody in the newsroom knows. It’s company policy.) But they can’t quite bring themselves to take it seriously. They go on sending each other endless and endlessly hilarious e-mails, discussing every aspect of their personal lives.

Meanwhile, Lincoln O’Neill can’t believe this is his job now—reading other people’s e-mail. When he applied to be “internet security officer,” he pictured himself building firewalls and crushing hackers—not writing up a report every time a sports reporter forwards a dirty joke.

When Lincoln comes across Beth’s and Jennifer’s messages, he knows he should turn them in. He can’t help being entertained, and captivated, by their stories. But by the time Lincoln realizes he’s falling for Beth, it’s way too late to introduce himself. What would he even say…?

The Cliffs by J. Courtney Sullivan

On a secluded bluff overlooking the ocean sits a Victorian house, lavender with gingerbread trim, a home that contains a century’s worth of secrets. By the time Jane Flanagan discovers the house as a teenager, it has long been abandoned. The place is an irresistible mystery to Jane. There are still clothes in the closets, marbles rolling across the floors, and dishes in the cupboards, even though no one has set foot there in decades. The house becomes a hideaway for Jane, a place to escape her volatile mother.

Twenty years later, now a Harvard archivist, she returns home to Maine following a terrible mistake that threatens both her career and her marriage. Jane is horrified to find the Victorian is now barely recognizable. The new owner, Genevieve, a summer person from Beacon Hill, has gutted it, transforming the house into a glossy white monstrosity straight out of a shelter magazine. Strangely, Genevieve is convinced that the house is haunted—perhaps the product of something troubling Genevieve herself has done. She hires Jane to research the history of the place and the women who lived there. The story Jane uncovers—of lovers lost at sea, romantic longing, shattering loss, artistic awakening, historical artifacts stolen and sold, and the long shadow of colonialism—is even older than Maine itself.

Enthralling, richly imagined, filled with psychic mediums and charlatans, spirits and past lives, mothers, marriage, and the legacy of alcoholism, this is a deeply moving novel about the land we inhabit, the women who came before us, and the ways in which none of us will ever truly leave this earth.

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